Me: Hey baby, I need you to go ahead and start on your work.
Student: (just looks at me)
Me: (walks over to student) ok so I want you to do this one sheet here and when you are done we will start something new.
Student: (throws worksheet on floor along with pencil, sissors, and glue)
Me: Sweetheart…that behaviour is unacceptable. I need for you to pick up the items and put them back where they belong and start on your work.
Student: (looks at me and does not move, puts his/her head on the desk)
Me: *sigh* (picks up items and leaves student with his/her head on his/her desk)
I don’t have time to fuss or argue! I don’t have the man/woman power to spend all day on this one student because he/she won’t follow directions. I have other students that I MUST attend to and make sure that they are doing what needs to be done.
But, this bothers me! How can I properly/effectively teach when such behavior issues run ramped in a classroom?!
Why is this happening…
Some students strive to be the center of attention. They do almost anything to be noticed from being argumentative to being funny. There is a lack of concern about following accepted procedure to gain recognition. Teachers and classmates find behavior by this student annoying and at times rude and unacceptable.
The attention seekers may be disciplined for: disrespect, teasing, disturbing the class, being uncooperative, swearing, talking, being out of his seat, and making fun of others.
Wanting to be in charge or in control provides the motivation for some student misbehavior. Students with this agenda simply want their way. They don’t hesitate to take a stand on matters important to them and are often disruptive and confrontational in reaching their goal. The teacher may feel provoked, threatened or challenged by this student.
Often power-seeking students don’t act out until they’re assured of an audience. And from the teacher’s perspective, this is probably the worst possible time.
Children raised in poverty rarely choose to behave differently, but they are faced daily with overwhelming challenges that affluent children never have to confront, and their brains have adapted to suboptimal conditions in ways that undermine good school performance.
Some teachers may interpret students’ emotional and social deficits as a lack of respect or manners, but it is more accurate and helpful to understand that the students come to school with a narrower range of appropriate emotional responses than we expect. The truth is that many children simply don’t have the repertoire of necessary responses.
So what can be done teachers?
The first step to deal effectively with inappropriate behavior is to show patience.
Students want teachers that:
- Respect them
- Care about them
- Listen to them
- Don’t yell or shout
- Have a sense of humor
- Are in a good moods
- Let students give their opinions and their side/opinion
Remember: “A friendly caring voice will go a long way in winning all students over and set a positive tone for everyone.”